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    The Importance of Personal Space in Relationships


    This is one of the most important aspects of relationship, being able to respect the other person’s need for space, which is essential to recharge and to allow the relationship to grow. This is sometimes known as: “Boundaries.”

    It’s vitally important not to get in your partner’s way and to tell them what to do. To elaborate, if you repeatedly cross your partner’s boundaries, the eventual outcome will be resentment. Do it often enough and you’ll create a fight. Do it even more than that and there’s a good chance you’ll lose the relationship completely.

    Let me give you an example from my life. I had a family member who would often violate my boundaries and tell me how to do a given task, even when I knew what to do. One afternoon I was removing a car battery. I knew how to do this properly, the result of working on aircraft.

    This family member wouldn’t listen to me when I said I knew what I was doing and didn’t need help. Worse, he kept doing it even as I was concentrating on the task, which was distracting. Finally, I put down my tools and told him off, which led to a huge fight.

    I’m sure you can see how destructive this could be if it were to happen in your own life. Now let’s go one step further and apply this to your intimate relationships. No one likes to be told what to do, hence the statement: “Mind your own business.” When you mind your own business, your life will be easier as a result. If you try to mind your partners business, you’ll create friction, resentment and discord.

    If your partner is doing something that you perceive as wrong, ask if you can offer a suggestion. Don’t assume you know better and tell your partner he/she is wrong. As mentioned earlier, this is a great recipe for a fight.


    Harmony in the relationship is an essential key to long-term relationship success. Here’s a recap of the major points we’ve covered here:

    • Clear, open communication, free of judgment

    • Giving your partner personal space

    • Respect of boundaries

    • Chemistry

    • Rapport

    • Great sex

    • The ability to have fun with each other

    • Adventure

    • Demonstrate genuine love and affection for each other. Words are not enough.

    Paying attention to the above will make a major difference in your relationship and will help it stand the test of time.

    © Nathan Segal

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